There are times
She needs to be held
In silence or song
But not words
There are times
When she doesn’t want
To feel weak
But she needs to feel
Someone else’s strength
©Ashley Castle Barnes
How often do we need to just be seen and heard in whatever we’re bringing at the moment?
Without judgment or shame or advice?
To simply be.
How often do we not receive that? Probably a lot.
Most of us are simply not trained to do this for others naturally. We are trained to solve problems. To help. To lead.
And to avoid discomfort.
It hurts to see others hurt. Kind souls want to fix it or make it go away.
But that doesn’t allow us to process through it. To be with it.
And when we don’t do that, it stays with us. It lingers. It festers.
It can become bigger than it needed to be.
I gave a presentation this week on my Leadership Lessons from a Reiki Master, and this exact topic came up.
Holding space for someone is healing. It may be the simplest and most powerful healing technique we can offer because it doesn’t require anything except our presence.
How are you holding space for someone today?