When all things seem
To spin out of control
And the popcorn thoughts
Bouncing in her brain
Won’t let her rest
She holds onto the knowing
That she doesn’t need
To be in control
To feel safe
Or loved
Or whole
©Ashley Castle Barnes
We all need something to ground us.
An object. A visual. A feeling. A thought.
Something that will bring us back to earth when the inevitable worries threaten to spin us out into orbit.
I do have a selenite heart stone nearby, that I grab quite frequently when I’m feeling scattered.
I have pets around me constantly. Just their presence is grounding.
And my favorite visualization is the ocean or water. I have my desk strategically positioned so I can look out my window and see the sun sparkling on my pool. It’s not “natural” but it’s soothing.
But sometimes, I have to consciously bring myself back to a thought that I know is true, even if in that moment it doesn’t feel so true.
I know I’m prone to try to control my environment when tasks pile up and my thoughts threaten to take over.
I know controlling my environment or thoughts doesn’t work, it usually makes things worse.
I know this from experience.
And even though my being wants to go there out of habit, I have to choose to gently bring myself back to earth.
To remind myself that I am safe, I am whole, I am loved, even when things feel like they’re spinning out of control.
And then things have a way of calming down on their own.
How are you releasing control and staying grounded today?